How has your life changed? Now that the baby is in the family how has eveything changed? How has you and your spouse reacted to all the changes? Have your relationship got better or fall down a bit?
To all you to be come or newly parents, there is so much ahead of you and to look forward to now that your little baby boy or girl has arrived. Your relationship is most likley going to have some up and downs due to the baby being here. Just don't blame your spouse or the baby. Take a step back and look at the whole picture you and your spouse are going to be both tired and cranky. When you put to people at that state of mind arguments arrive. so both of you need to have a uderstanding of eachother. A bad thing to do is critisize and compare. (i.e. i do more work than you, im at work all day, i took care of the baby all day.) honestly,You both worked very hard and should just sit back and appreciate one another. If you do compare and critsize you won't accompilish anything besides hurt feelings. You should also never fight in front of your baby. Your baby can sence the tession and it can make him/her become cranky and will put more stress on eachother.
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Hi my name is katie. My husband and I had our daughter 5 months ago and I can tell you for sure that our lives have changed. When we first brought her home, it seemed like my husband feel in love with desiree instantly. i on the other hand didnt realy feel and love for her quite yet. i have had a bonding issue all my life but i thought that having my own child would raise the bars higher for me. Well within the first two months my husband and i started fighting a lot over bills and how he always took car of the baby, he asked why i never helped out but i felt offended because i would take care of her but he would say that i dont do any bonding time. Well to make a long story short i went to a thearphist to see if there was something wrong with me and i guess i have a attachment disorder. My question for any one commenting is will i ever be ablt to bond well with my daughter? I do love her to death but i dont feel as connected as my husband does. AM I a bad mother for not being ablt to bond well with my child. I heard that for some new parents it takes months to feel connected with thier child is this true
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